Today I would like to talk a little about adoptions. I believe it is a great thing for one to adopt a child, give it a home and lots of love. But there is something that I think should be taken into consideration and that is knowing who the true parents are and to let the child know it. It is fine for the adoption parents to bring up the child as their own, I agree with it. But these days strange things can happen. The child that you adopt grows up and meets someone ,falls in love and marry. What if that child meets a sister or brother and they don't know it and they fall in love? This has happened before. I heard the story today but I had heard about a story a while back that these two teens met and fell in love and come to find out they were sister and brother. Can you imagine the shock it must have been to the both of them? For the parents who are giving the child away, you don't want them to know who you are? I understand at the time you probably thought you had a good reason for giving the baby away, but you should always say when the child is old enough that he can find out who you are .Now days ,getting pregnant seems like an every day thing, it is not a scandal like the olden days, it is not hush hush.Many young girls get pregnant , many keep their babies but some give them away, you as a parent should let it be known you want the child to know where he comes from. Also another thing, if the adopted child gets sick maybe he or she inherited the sickness from their real parents, so again the real parents should be known. I am into genealogy so I personally think the child has a right to know his true ancestors. Remember ,even if the adopted child finds his birth parents, it doesn't mean he or she will love you less, you have brought the child up as your own, for all those years you were his parent , but that child will wonder and want to know one day where he or she came from. Let your adopted child know the truth, let him or her decide if they want to go further with the information. There could be siblings out there somewhere wondering what happened to their brother or sister and maybe they would like to meet the child. If you as the real parent gave up the child because of the child's father, not wanting him to know where the child is, let that go, it is the child that is important, that child did not ask to be born but it was given life by you and that child should not be punished and honestly should know its true parents. My sister adopted a baby girl and she did the right thing, when the baby was old enough she was told she was adopted and who her mother was, and this girl met her true mother and she doesn't love my sister any less for it. It seems to put a closure on unanswered questions.
Changing the subject now. I am still creating products, some of them I am proud of, you can find all of my stuff at http://www.zazzle.com/allicor* ,
Chow for now Allicor
No comments:
Post a Comment